I've been debating writing this post for numerous reasons. However today it feels right. This is something I am truly passionate about.
Sometimes in my little Shay life, I look for answers by studying topics. I research, and I learn in order to accept. Here is my paper on Pornography and the wake of destruction that follows.
There are numerous addictions in this world they vary in shape, size, intensity, and ultimately how destructive they are in one's life. For example a few years ago there were billboards advertising how bad meth is. Do you remember those? The terrible sad faces? The destroyed lives? I'm sure you saw them, and they burned a hole into your mind. It awoke that part of your brain into comparing meth to those faces. We see that often with alcohol , with cigarettes, we can visually see the impact it has, therefore it's easy to see the consequences. However, there is another addiction that is often hidden in the dark corners of society. Some even want to accept it. Pornography.
On Dr. Phil.com- I discovered that pornography is in fact cheating. He goes on to say, "It is not OK behaviour. It is a perverse and ridiculous intrusion into your relationship. It is an insult, it is disloyal, and it is cheating."
On Sex Addict.com- "Science and research have now shown that both chemical and process addictions ( eg. sex, gambling, eating)produce a similar hypofrontality syndrome"All addictions appear to cause physical changes in control and pleasure centres of the brain and this has been demonstrated in both drug addictions such as cocaine and process addictions such as sex. But it's important to state recent studies show that when recovery and healing occurs for both drug and process addictions, the brain returns to a more normal state.
Mens Health- explains how porn watchers suffer more depression, self loathing, and less motivation than those who don't watch. "People often say no this won't affect me--- Denial is the first line of defence. The truth is it's just a matter of time before it affects you. But it will, because it always does."
Further more I heard heart breaking stories of the pain pornography causes, I saw marriages that fell apart due to this awful addiction. I heard of losing trust, the partner losing their self worth and I saw sorrow. I see depression, hatred and giving up. I see broken hearts, and loneliness
If this is all I found in the short time of study, why is it that as a society we accept porn? Some even advertise it? Are we not more than our sexual pleasures? Can we not accomplish more? Love deeper? Live better?
Now here's my opinion. IT IS NEVER OKAY. It is never acceptable. It is wrong. It is degrading to you, and whomever's son or daughter is on your screen. It's heartbreaking to your spouses, or partners, and it destroys love. Pornography takes a loving relationship and shatters every happy memory shared. It destroys views on life, and it terrorizes hearts and souls. So whether you are religious or not, whether you watch, know someone who watches, or you support it. Know that it's NOT okay. It never is, and it never will be. There is never a plus side, there is never anything good that comes from participating in Pornography. Be the change this world needs. Change is possible. There is help out there. There are professionals. We can be the support systems that others need, and they can be that for us. Let's rise up and be better than what the media is saying we should do. Become a fighter.
Also, I came across this website that backs me up. fightthenewdrug.org
Check out what wonderful things they do! Whose in with me?
Sometimes in my little Shay life, I look for answers by studying topics. I research, and I learn in order to accept. Here is my paper on Pornography and the wake of destruction that follows.
There are numerous addictions in this world they vary in shape, size, intensity, and ultimately how destructive they are in one's life. For example a few years ago there were billboards advertising how bad meth is. Do you remember those? The terrible sad faces? The destroyed lives? I'm sure you saw them, and they burned a hole into your mind. It awoke that part of your brain into comparing meth to those faces. We see that often with alcohol , with cigarettes, we can visually see the impact it has, therefore it's easy to see the consequences. However, there is another addiction that is often hidden in the dark corners of society. Some even want to accept it. Pornography.
On Dr. Phil.com- I discovered that pornography is in fact cheating. He goes on to say, "It is not OK behaviour. It is a perverse and ridiculous intrusion into your relationship. It is an insult, it is disloyal, and it is cheating."
On Sex Addict.com- "Science and research have now shown that both chemical and process addictions ( eg. sex, gambling, eating)produce a similar hypofrontality syndrome"All addictions appear to cause physical changes in control and pleasure centres of the brain and this has been demonstrated in both drug addictions such as cocaine and process addictions such as sex. But it's important to state recent studies show that when recovery and healing occurs for both drug and process addictions, the brain returns to a more normal state.
Mens Health- explains how porn watchers suffer more depression, self loathing, and less motivation than those who don't watch. "People often say no this won't affect me--- Denial is the first line of defence. The truth is it's just a matter of time before it affects you. But it will, because it always does."
Further more I heard heart breaking stories of the pain pornography causes, I saw marriages that fell apart due to this awful addiction. I heard of losing trust, the partner losing their self worth and I saw sorrow. I see depression, hatred and giving up. I see broken hearts, and loneliness
If this is all I found in the short time of study, why is it that as a society we accept porn? Some even advertise it? Are we not more than our sexual pleasures? Can we not accomplish more? Love deeper? Live better?
Now here's my opinion. IT IS NEVER OKAY. It is never acceptable. It is wrong. It is degrading to you, and whomever's son or daughter is on your screen. It's heartbreaking to your spouses, or partners, and it destroys love. Pornography takes a loving relationship and shatters every happy memory shared. It destroys views on life, and it terrorizes hearts and souls. So whether you are religious or not, whether you watch, know someone who watches, or you support it. Know that it's NOT okay. It never is, and it never will be. There is never a plus side, there is never anything good that comes from participating in Pornography. Be the change this world needs. Change is possible. There is help out there. There are professionals. We can be the support systems that others need, and they can be that for us. Let's rise up and be better than what the media is saying we should do. Become a fighter.
Also, I came across this website that backs me up. fightthenewdrug.org
Check out what wonderful things they do! Whose in with me?
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