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6 Things That Happen When You Find Yourself in a Healthy Relationship (After Never Having One)

In this world it sometimes can be hard to find a human you can put up with, nevertheless love, and nevertheless actually be a good person. We've all gone through those bad relationships, some of us are still in them, and others have left and are feeling hopeless.. We all know what happens when those bad relationships control and destroy us.. but what happens when you find a healthy relationship. 1) You are this easy level of happy.  Many have always told you that when you are in love, you are this blissful happy, but since you’ve only been in the wrong relationships, you didn’t understand this before now. You are pleasantly happy with the human you chose. It’s no longer a fight anytime you see something different, it’s not longer sad nights crying, and it’s not longer feeling like you aren’t good enough. This easy level of happy is present, and you are happy to work out problems because you know your person isn’t trying to hurt you, they don’t want to sink you, they are

Tonight I Miss You Just a Little More.

There are times when I want to share my joys, my funnies, and my jokes with you. I feel it in my heart and know how much you'd love it. Sometimes I think back to the life we had, and how filled with life you were. I'm finding new friends, and I always remember you, But tonight, especially, I'm missing you. There is a piece of my soul, that can never be returned You were that spot, and it's okay for me to feel this way, ' You wouldn't want me to be this sad, and I'm mostly strong these days. But tonight I'm missing you. I'll always be your brave girl, for this is different than I've ever had to deal with. I can't talk to people about it, and I shouldn't still cry about it. I need to be the strong woman you raised, I know I need to carry on I know how I should act, But tonight I'm just a little sad, tonight I'm just a little hurt, and tonight I want nothing more than to talk to you. When life gets a little harder,

Tonight I Miss You Just a Little More.

There are times when I want to share my joys, my funnies, and my jokes with you. I feel it in my heart and know how much you'd love it. Sometimes I think back to the life we had, and how filled with life you were. I'm finding new friends, and I always remember you, But tonight, especially, I'm missing you. There is a piece of my soul, that can never be returned You were that spot, and it's okay for me to feel this way, ' You wouldn't want me to be this sad, and I'm mostly strong these days. But tonight I'm missing you. I'll always be your brave girl, for this is different than I've ever had to deal with. I can't talk to people about it, and I shouldn't still cry about it. I need to be the strong woman you raised, I know I need to carry on I know how I should act, But tonight I'm just a little sad, tonight I'm just a little hurt, and tonight I want nothing more than to talk to you. When life gets a little harder,

To the Man Who Taught Me How to Love

They say a girl marries her father.  Well luckily mine is the best daddy in all the land. Now that's not saying he's perfect, because he's not. In fact, he is flawed, very flawed. At times I questioned my need for a father, I doubted his honest caring, and I felt the impact of his absence. It was rocky, and difficult to maintain at times, but isn't that what love is? But the fact is, he taught me how to love, and if you don't believe me, I have proof, with pictures!  1) When I was a little girl my dad took me on a daddy daughter date. We walked around, and talked, we got ice cream and played at a park. It wasn't anything special and he didn't buy me the world, but he showed me the value of communication. 2) When I was a bratty tween he travelled 8 hours one way every other week to see me. Even if I didn't / couldn't see him. Sometimes he would drive all the way up just to turn around a drive back. This wasn't a huge thing to

6 Things Most Divorced Children Have in Common.

Divorce does the same thing to each person however, we all deal with it differently, and we all get a little screwed up in the process. We don’t understand the why of divorce and the direct effect on the mind, but we can see the changes in a life.   "Studies have shown that that children of divorce are far more likely to be delinquent, engage in premarital sex, and bear children out of wedlock during adolescence and young adulthood. A 33-year study published in 1998 in the American Sociological Review revealed that children whose parents divorced in their childhood or adolescence were likely to be afflicted with emotional problems such as depression or anxiety well into their twenties or early thirties." [Maher, B. (2003) Patching Up the American Family. World and I, v18 i1 p56. Retrieved June 9, 2004 from Expanded Academic ASAP]  Many children of divorce struggle with identity. 47 % of children deal with mental health issues such as depression, anxiety, or anorexia.

It's Always Been Me.

It's always been just me. Here, never in a lonely way. It's a simple way. A happy way. It's always been me. Then I met you. Suddenly it had to be you and me? At least that's what I was lead to believe. But then sometimes it turned to just me and just you. And if it's not us is it just me again? At least it's always been me. I know how to deal with me. But you, even through the years, I don't comprehend you. I'm unsure if I ever will. Though I'm sure the you, tries to love the me, the best way you can. It'll never be the love the me needs to feel loved. So I'll go back to me, and you go back to you. Till then next time when the you, wants to be the part of me. And then the we, will restart the cycle, As the me, was once a part of the you.

Adoration.

A year ago I received a letter. This letter was powerful, friendly, kind, loving, and overall wonderful. This was a letter to celebrate a wonderful person. Now it's my turn to return the favour. My longest adult friend, It's time you know the value of you. It seems like just yesterday you called me after you heard about Teina’s death.   And it wasn’t long ago we sat in my car on your birthday and you sat there as I cried, and was angry, we talked about life, love, religion, me hating boys, and more so we talked about Teina. It wasn’t long after that after losing my grandpa I looked up during my speech to see you there, supporting my painful year yet  again. I don’t think you quite understand the rock you have been to me not only this past year, but basically all my milestones. You’ve been the official Shay cheerleader for so long it’s time I cheer you on for a bit. It amazes me to see how caring and selfless you’ve become. How you’ve managed to keep your fun, and

Equality.

Not many of us remember back in the 1950's when there was a separate entrance to buildings for boys and girls, coloured people and white people. Not many of us can remember sending loved ones off to war (praying for their return) in order for us to fight for equality. Even less of us were around when we, the women, were able to vote, work, earn a paycheck, own a house and so on and so forth. Usually I tend to keep my mouth, and fingers shut about political issues, because there's nothing I can say to change your mind, especially if you are one of the many in this province sending death threats to our Premier. But let me see if you can see something a little bit different. Man, this province is mad at Rachel Notley, and I can totally see why. She's making changes in a very liberal way. Alberta has been conservative for all the years I can remember, and finally a different government has been elected, by majority, to be in charge of Alberta. Here's what I see. She t