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They are Dumb.

The hardest part of growing up, is learning that sometimes not everyone follows you.
It has been a different time of my life to learn that sometimes growing up you have to do what's best for you no matter how hard it hurts at the time. Sometimes you have to walk away from people who use you, hurt you, and crush you. No matter how nice they are in between fights, that ugly side always comes out and no matter what you will lose. Then to see that person with someone they have always said they dislike strongly, and to see them all buddy-buddy makes one wonder if any of the friendship was actually true, if they actually meant what they said or if the whole time they were using you.
What sort of sick game do some guys play? Do they get a thrill out of earning a girls trust, of being their best friend then using everything they know about them against them? I just don't get it. Then us girls usually listen to slow, sad love songs, AS IF that will actually make us feel better, when in reality it does the opposite. So I came up with a playlist of wonderful fast up-beat songs and titled the list (I am not kidding) "Boys Are Dumb" Here are some of the songs.
1) Songs like this - Carrie Underwood
2) You Lie - The Band Perry
3) Face Down- The Red Jumpsuit Apparatus
4) Break your Little Heart- All Time Low
5) Never Take friendship Personal - Anberlin
6) Jar of Hearts- Christina Perri
7) Better Than Revenge- Taylor Swift
8) Heartless - Kris Allen
9) Over you- Chris Daughtry
10) Sick of You - Selena Gomez

Some of these songs help me get through all the tough times, cause honestly guys can put us through HELL, whether it be a boyfriend or a bestfriend it is almost the same. But in my opinion the feeling of losing your best friend is worse than a boyfriend, because boyfriends come and go, better ones come along, and gradually you learn to open your heart more and more, but a best friend knows so much about you, they can always use it against you.
There is nothing worse then losing a friend, save it be learning to leave that friend in the past where they belong. People who don't help lift you and help you become a better person are not worth anyone's time. I see too many girls, too many friends put up with so much because they "love them" Well, the raw truth is even if you love them, you have to think about yourself and do what is best for you, because at the end of the day no one will be there for you. Only you. If you love them, learn to un-love them. People who treat you like that don't deserve to be a part of your life. Plain and simple. Leave them and don't look back. I'm not saying its easy, I'm saying its possible. It hurts, yes, and you have to cry and get it out. But in the end you will be a better and happier person.

That's the hardest part about growing up, is knowing not everyone grows up with you.
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