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Contention.

Fighting is a weird sensation to me.

You take someone you love, and all of the sudden you feel like you could rip their head off, and not feel bad. They hurt you and make you more mad, angry and upset, than you've ever been.

Your blood boils because it's them. The person you love, respect, and don't want to live without. Yet sometimes they are so incredibly rude and thoughtless. You push away not wanting to be hurt again, and then you end up hurting them, and they push back.

This goes on and on until one of you breaks the wall and becomes a bigger person.

You talk it through, cry a little, deal with the problems and now pains at hand. Then, peacefully, everything is restored.

Problems become resolved and both parties compromise just a little to let the other one back in. Pretty quickly you are laughing, and through something you never thought you would make it through.

Then they are standing right there, open arms, saying "Sorry, Forgive me."

Then you do.


Love grows on.

You both become a little better.

Fighting is a weird growing process to me.

And I like avoiding it.


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