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In a life of media ridden information, and instant technology so many people have such a strong say in each of our lives.
This week I was browsing through Facebook and came across the following articles:


  • 10 types of guys you shouldn't date
  • 10 qualities you should be looking for 
  • 7 things tall people have a harder time at 
  • 5 ways to tell they are cheating
  • 14 ways to be able to tell they love you
  • 5 types of people in this world
  • 6 ways to get over him
  • 23 things that make a best friend
  • How to tell when you are ready to date again
  • Ways to see that you love him
  • 30 different celebrities doing..... (who knows what I can't remember) 


But needless to say I was looking and these and wondering, do we really rely on one person somewhere behind a desk to tell us how we feel? Do we often sit and wait for life to happen, then consult google before reacting?

How do we live our lives?

They say the best way to power through things is to not "allow" yourself to get hurt anymore. Is that how we want to live our lives? If we compare an emotional hurt to a physical one for a moment maybe it will shed light on the subject.

There was a time back in high school when I had first gotten into long boarding.( My mom had told me not to because she thought it to be dangerous. )However, being the punk teenager I was, I didn't listen. Like the rookie I was when I changed the bearings, I didn't tighten them all the way, so when I got on my long board and started going down a hill, my long board fell apart underneath me, and I went shoulder first into the asphalt. OUCH. That hurt for a while.. like a long while. But let me tell you, it has not only served as a reminder to tighten the bearings, but also to show others to do the same, and make sure that NO ONE will have their wheels fall off their board.

I look back on that, and man alive, it hurt at the time, but now, you could ask me, "Shay would you take that crash back?"
My answer 100% of the time would be, "No, it made me a better boarder, and a more intelligent person."

Emotional pain and suffering is the same way. The way we see and feel it, the way we get over it is entirely up to US. Each of us have a life to live, and we each get a chance to be in the drivers seat of our lives. Don't give that up. Take the wheel and enjoy every moment of the ride. We will fall, we will have scrapes, bumps, bruises, and sometimes broken bones. Choose to let it soften and wise you up, or allow it to dictate the rest of your life. Either way, it's your choice.

Don't allow someones checklist found via the internet to tell you what you feel, when your ready, and what to do about it all. Be the driver in your car of life. Trust your feelings for even though they may have failed you in the past, they sure can help steer you better now.


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